After the affair: healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful

Stage one: Reacting to the affair: "Is what I'm feeling normal?". The hurt partner's response: buried in an avalanche of losses ; The unfaithful partner's response: lost in a labyrinth of choices

Stage two: Reviewing your options: "Should I stay or leave?". Exploring your ideas about love ; Confronting your doubts and fears

Stage three: Recovering from the affair: "How do we rebuild our life together?". Learning from the affair ; Restoring trust ; How to talk about what happened ; Sex again ; Learning to forgive ; Sex, secrets, and affairs in cyberspace: living with the "new" infidelity

Epilogue: revealing the secret: truth and consequences.